Dear Subconscious

A Tiny Trick for Resolving Stuck Points in Your Writing

I’m cruising along on a draft for a new article. I’m in the zone and I know it.

My fingers are one with my mind, and each sentence feels more effortless than the last. The rhythm is smoothy, my tone spot on, and the logic is razor-sharp.

Until it isn’t.

My momentum vanishes. I don’t know what to say. Drawing blanks.

I punch out a few clunky strings of words but delete them before I’ve hit period key.

Looking up from my computer, I feel dazed. Certainly confused.

Somehow I’ve written myself into a corner with no obvious escape routes.

As I stare blankly at my screen, holding out some meager hope that it’s merely a momentary hiccup and the thoughts will come flooding back.

They don’t.

I’ve hit a good old-fashioned stuck point. Which is a bummer because typically I don’t recover from them well.

Pushing harder is not the answer

My old response to stuck points was to just push harder.

I’d keep writing and writing, growing more and more frustrated because I knew I just didn’t have it.

Often I’d end up with a semi-complete draft, read it over, and realize the inevitable - everything after the stuck point was crap. Crap that I’d just spent an hour and a half forcing.


But about a year ago, I was working on a chapter of my first book in between therapy sessions with clients, and I stumbled onto a diminutive writing hack that’s completely changed the way I write.

Best of all it’s incredibly simple and easy to implement.

Dear Subconscious…

Whenever I hit a stuck point in my writing, I jot down the following within the text of whatever I’m working on, right where the stuck point was:

Dear Subconscious,

Please work on this while I’m away:

[A single sentence describing your stuck point. E.g.: “Can’t figure out how to connect idea of negative reinforcement with the story about Pauly the Pushover.”]



Then I get up and do something else. Usually, one of the following:

  • Go for a walk.
  • Go for a run.
  • Work on a different article.
  • Brainstorm (using sticky notes, obviously) a new article or project.
  • Make coffee.
  • If it’s a book manuscript or really long article, work on a totally different section.

Importantly, I don’t go back to that stuck point until the next day at a minimum. 2-3 days later seems to be ideal.

When I do get back to it, I start by reading from the beginning of the piece or section I was working on. Then, when I get to the Dear Subconscious part, the solution usually just shows up. Kinda like magic.

Sure it does…

No seriously, it really does. Not all the time of course, but I’d say at least half the time.

The reason why, I suspect, has to do with our two brains.

Two brains?

Functionally speaking, we all have two brains.

One brain works consciously and explicitly. Your conscious brain is working right now as you read this.

But our second brain works unconsciously and implicitly. Your subconscious brain is working right now, too. It’s keeping your heart beating, for instance. But it’s also chewing on and processing all sorts of information you’ve encountered recently, trying to make sense of it all. You’re just not aware of it.

The Dear Subconscious trick works by deliberately offloading some of our most difficult writing work to our unconscious mind. It’s particularly good at this kind of creative, connecting-two-seemingly-unrelated-ideas type of work.

Importantly, the unconscious mind really works hard during sleep, which is why it’s important to wait at least a day (and a night) before returning to your stuck point.

2 Additional Benefits

In addition to better utilizing your brain’s division of labor, this trick also has two really important side effects:

  1. Less Frustration. A lot of writers pile on unnecessary amounts of frustration and stress by trying to grind away at stuck points. While there may be a time and place for that, it’s probably safe to assume that we should all be doing less of it. The vast majority of the time it’s counter-productive in that it doesn’t lead to a better insight and we stress ourselves out.
  2. Increased Productivity. The other benefit of delegating stuck points to your subconscious right away is that it means less opportunity cost. See, all that time and energy we spend trying to force an insight to come is all time and energy that could be put toward something else. Maybe that something else isn’t the exact thing you’d prefer to be working on, but at least it’s something. In the hour and a half that we spend (unproductively) trying to force an idea to come, we could have brainstormed a new article, made corrections to two other drafts, and answered a handful of support emails.


I’ve noticed two obstacles to implementing this little technique that I think are worth mentioning:

  1. It seems too simplistic or cutesy to be effective. It totally does. I get it. So just give it a shot. Try it 3 times. If it doesn’t work, sorry I wasted 10 minutes of your life.
  2. Forgetting to do it. If you like the idea but find yourself forgetting to implement it, google “Sigmund Freud” or something else that reminds you of the Subconscious, print out a crapy little black and white version of it, and stick it somewhere near your computer or whatever you write on. Should jog your memory.


By not fighting against stuck points in our writing and giving them some space, we can leverage the power of the unconscious mind to solve complex problems, avoid unnecessary frustration, and get other stuff done all at the same time.

When you hit a stuck point in your writing, simply jot down a small in-line note to your subconscious briefly explaining the nature of the problem and asking for a little help. Then immediately move on to work on something else.

After at least a day, re-read your draft and watch your subconscious deliver the goods.